Dating, Engagement, Marriage: The Stages of Home-Buying

What’s Next?

  • The Home Search is the same as “Dating”. We know what we want in a home/partner and we know we must “have the goods” to get what we want.
  •  “The Engagement” happens after we make an offer on a home and the offer is accepted. Tread carefully during this period of time. This is when you look for flaws and deal-breakers so you’ll have time to bail out without penalty.
  • “The Marriage”: You’ve closed the purchase and are the official owner of the property. (Here’s where I start snickering.) If you try to get rid of it now, everyone will be wondering “What’s wrong with it?”

Many of us know what happens after marriage.

Weight-gain, lax grooming, fading colors, neglect. After buying a home, the same stages of post-courtship decline can happen before we know it.

We trim less and become visibly unruly. The leaves fade and are missing the luster and color applied before. The landscaping fits a bit tighter as the fabric of neglected greenery expands. We become fat and lazy!

You start coming home later…

You know how it goes within a marriage. You think what’s-her-name isn’t going anywhere so you become sloppy. You leave the toilet seat up. You buy Lucky Charms instead of bran cereal. You fail to be her hero by killing spiders. You fail to allow her to pluck your eyebrows when you start looking like Fu Manchu. You wait until he gets back into the room and point out that the dog barfed so he’s stuck cleaning it up.

(NOTE: I’m guilty of the last sentence above as of just this morning.)

The lights are on but no one is home…

This is why it’s important to generate reasons to spruce up. If you’re concerned about whether or not people think you’re a slob, invite them over for a party! This will give you incentive to shed a few lbs. of that fluffiness, plant tulips, etc. Make everyone want to be on the arm of the best-looking, best-maintained house on the block, even after being “married to it” for many years!

Finally, know if you’re ready for a commitment in the first place!
This photo was taken when I visited my family in Iowa last year.


What’s the difference between eggs and bacon?

The chicken is involved; the pig is committed.

Meet Mary & Hayes, our Exclusive Buyer Clients!

We absolutely love working with smart Clients! We are pleased to announce that our Exclusive Buyer Clients Mary & Hayes are in contract to buy a home in the City of Hayward!  We are going through the due diligence part of the purchase contract now and are on the way to Mary & Hayes owning a home in the coveted Upper B Street neighborhood if all goes well with their inspections.

Stay tuned for updates!Hayes and Mary with Sylvan photo

4th Annual SantaCon Hayward 2015!

2014 SantaCon group photo croppedPlanning for SantaCon Hayward scheduled for Saturday December 5th, 2015 is well underway! So far the following sponsors have committed to participating with their generous donations to the Hayward Animal Shelter:

The World Famous Turf Club

The Bistro

Chalk It Up

Brews & Brats

Bijou Restaurant & Bar

Sponsorship opportunities are available NOW so don’t delay! Visit for more information.


Changing Lifestyle and the Fence

2589 Hidden Lane, Hayward Hills: “The Perfect House for Someone My Age”

Recently, I turned 40. Applause please! I won’t say how recent it was (and shame on you for asking)! Over the years, my choice of home has changed from living at home (no privacy) to living in a big city for short spurts (tiny portions of flats or hostels overseas) to my first “house-home” while married (San Francisco) to the little condo near mom (for her cooking) when I was single again. After the condo, I needed more incentive to work harder and bought a silly house way too big for me and threw lots of fun parties. I’m now comfortable with my husband and our dogs.

The kind of home one chooses depends on family situations and marital status, yes?

A lovely young couple (yes, YOUNG!) recently retained our services to list and sell their home. They are hip and stylish and savvy and quite impressive people. They are also PARENTS of young children and even the kids are impressive. One of the kids is still in pre-school, the other is in grade school.

Speaking from my narrow perspective of someone who only has two stinky boy-dogs, here are a few questions and miscellaneous thoughts I have about being young and having young children:

  • Wouldn’t I miss going out on weekends with my friends? (Solution: Get a baby-sitter.)
  • Would I still want to invite friends over, knowing that the kinds of friends I’d have nowadays if I had young kids would bring their bratty young smelly kids? (Solution: Have a play-area or an entertainment room off yonder where I can’t see, hear or smell them.)
  • Would my life be boring? (Solution: A disco ball along with a stellar sound system.)
  • Would my spouse’s friends from his single days (or even some of my friends) irritate me in my Newly Enlightened Stage of Life After 40? (Solution: Have a house big enough with a separate area for the Cavemen to hang. Can you say “ooga-booga”?

What would be the perfect house for me, given all I wrote above? CLICK HERE for the best option I can think of at this very moment!

I love life, I love my husband, I love our dogs (not necessarily in that order) and I love my work, where I can be creative and have fun and work with people I truly respect and admire…

NOTE: This home is certainly by no means age-specific. I’m simply speaking about a few of the home’s virtues, as I see it from my own perspective. If you can afford it, you can buy it, no matter what your age, family status, or whether or not you have a stinky dog!

Realty World Neighbors’ Team Members

A handful of Realty World Neighbors’ associates attended a recent Rotary event, AKA “Dragontini Mixer”. Rotarians and members of the community mingled over dangerous Dragontini cocktails and delicious appetizers catered by Cannery Cafe.

Greg and I are members of the Rotary Club of F.U.N. Sunset which meets Thursday evenings at 7:00 p.m. at the Crowne Plaza Hotel in Union City. Through our club, we support such endeavors as SantaCon Hayward for the Hayward Animal Shelter, Magnolia Women’s Recovery, Inc., local youth programs as well as international projects.

Brokers/Owners Anna May & Greg Jones, Simon Wong, Richard Navarro
Brokers/Owners Anna May & Greg Jones, Simon Wong, Richard Navarro

No Money, No Honey and the Ideal Suitor

"He Said, She Said"
“He Said, She Said”

In the aftermath of Valentine’s Day, when you love someone, you’ve got to have the goods!

Let’s be honest, folks. He or she who has the means to secure what he or she wants is most likely to succeed. So goes life. We see this starting on the playground, then in grade school, then in our adolescence and most notably, in life now, every single solitary day.

When in search of a home to buy, supply and demand come heavily into play. The strongest buyer will almost always beat out the contenders. How does this work?

First, the buyer has to be able to afford the property much the same way a suitor has to be able to afford pursuit of the “desirable one”. Stamina is sometimes necessary to keep up the chase, or in other words, to continue the search of the right home to buy.

Second, show the goods! The buyer must be able to prove that he or she can “seal the deal”. This means not just the engagement of getting into contract to purchase, but ultimately the sealing of the deal, the “marriage” and commitment of securing the property, so-to-speak.

Third, be willing to compromise and reach common ground. Negotiate fairly. (Come on, all married couples do this! Same concept applies in a courtship of securing property.)

Finally, don’t be a jerk during the contract AKA “engagement” period unless you want to get dumped! Warnings are to be expected among the betrothed, but it can get to the point that a buyer or a seller doesn’t perform according to the terms of the contract. If the offenses are serious enough, look forward to that proverbial Dear John letter and prepare to go separate ways.

Note: Have a stellar agent representing you! They are an extension of you, so make sure to choose wisely…